There have also been many downsides to blogging that are not always openly discussed (i.e. insecurity, competition).
Today I will discuss the five things I stopped doing after starting my personal finance blog.
1. Constantly questioning my productivity
I like to keep myself busy since it makes me feel productive and happy.
However, this could serve as a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, I feel motivated to find meaningful projects to do and resources to learn such as reading about real estate investment and how to do online business.
When I’m not working, I feel like I have to justify that fact by coming up with some lessons learned or benefits from fun activities.
Sometimes doing fun stuff stresses me out because it makes me feel like I’m not making the most of my time.
However, after launching my blog, I have found myself feverishly writing posts, exploring social media, reading other blogs, and interacting with other bloggers.
I get up every day thinking about the to-do list for my blog and just can’t wait until I get off work and finish all the daily duties as a mom and a wife to have some blogging time for myself.
The question “What did I get done today?” still creeps into my mind every day. However, knowing that my time is well spent on my blog gives me a great sense of accomplishment and reward.
2. Questioning my purpose in life
I work full-time and enjoy my job. However, I can’t feel like I have accomplished something in life unless I have started a business of my own and see whether I can grow it.
Ever since my first year in college, I have always wondered what kind of business I can start, if ever, and whether I can make it successful.
Although I haven’t monetized my blog, seeing the positive feedback I have gotten and the success of many bloggers gives me hope that one day maybe I will also succeed.
What’s a better feeling than being able to add value to other people’s life while creating wealth for your family?
While my current job can help me fulfill that purpose to some extent, being able to develop my own product or service that others need, at least in my opinion, speaks volumes about my ability as an entrepreneur.
3. Fearing the unknown on the internet
When I started blogging, I did not want to talk about the specifics of our lives. I feared that someone might actually know who we are, where we live, and how we live, and that they might do something harmful to us.
However, as time went by and as I opened up more about our lives, I’ve gotten more comfortable sharing our stories with hundreds of readers and bloggers I have never met. I went from writing about our house in Washington DC to why we sent our son to China and the trouble we have in our marriage.
I still choose to blog anonymously for various reasons including safety. But my fear of the unknown on the internet has been drastically reduced by all the positive feedback I’ve gotten from the reader and fellow bloggers.
4. Watching TV shows
I love watching detective TV series (i.e. Bones, Law and Order SVU) since I learn so much about many aspects of life that I can’t or don’t want to experience. Watching those shows has helped me understand why people do certain things that are frowned upon by society.
I’m also intrigued by the logic a capable and dedicated detective processes in order to catch a criminal. The power of a strong and unbiased legal system (or the lack thereof) never ceases to amaze me.
After I started blogging, however, I have stopped watching TV shows altogether. Anything I want to do now is converted into the time I can spend blogging instead.
I’m not sure if it’s sustainable in the long run. But I’m pretty sure at this point that I feel happier writing a new blog post than watching a new TV show episode.
5. Fighting with Mr. FAF over frivolous issues
I have to admit that sometimes I get irritable when I’m around Mr. FAF. Anything he says or does can get under my skin for some reason. But now that blogging has become one of my priorities, I allocate a specific amount of time to being with Mr. FAF every day, and I want to make it good.
I want to be stress-free and dedicate more quality time to blogging. That means improving my relationship with my spouse and letting go of trivial arguments that will only undermine my productivity.
Mr. FAF has also realized the benefits of blogging to our relationship and has tried to be supportive by agreeing to be interviewed by me and helped me switch my site from http to https for more security.
Over the past seven months, I have stopped constantly doubting my productivity and ability as a person and a potential female entrepreneur. Blogging has helped me be more productive, confident, and less fearful of the unknown.
I have also stopped many activities that used to take time from my life but weren’t as fulfilling and rewarding as blogging such as window shopping and watching TV shows.
Despite Mr. FAF’s doubt that I will not be able to turn my blog into a business, he’s supported me in many ways because he knows blogging has become one of my top priorities in life.
Mr. FAF sometimes helps me take care of Baby FAF in his free time so that I can take some time off to blog and not be so stressed out about my progress. And he does that because he cares about my happiness, not because he sees a monetary benefit to me blogging one day.
Blogging has definitely enriched my life and shown me that a promising future as an entrepreneur is not impossible.