The holiday spirit is in the air, at the mall, at the grocery store, and in the decorations in my neighborhood.
I can’t say I love the cold.
But I like that while it’s so cold outside, all the holidays like Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas make me feel so warm and fuzzy inside.
And I think it’s mainly because I have my little family here with me plus a new member this year.
As 2018 is coming to an end, I want to take this time to review my 2018 New Year resolutions to see what I’ve achieved and accomplished.
Before I do that, however, I want to highlight our family’s key milestones in 2018.
Milestones in 2018
1. We welcomed our baby girl, Baby F2, in late August this year.
Initially, we planned for my mom to come help us with the baby for at least six months.
2. Mr. FAF and I had a whole month taking care of a toddler and a newborn all by ourselves.
It was through this experience that I saw how dedicated, hard-working, and responsible a husband and a father Mr. FAF was. And of course, that changed somewhat after my FIL came to live with us.
3. After a year of working with the same team, Mr. FAF was asked to transfer to a new team since his boss didn’t think he was a good fit.
Mr. FAF became really depressed and lost all confidence in himself as an employee, a husband, a father, and a breadwinner. Luckily, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise since he now likes his new team much more than he did the old team.
4. We are scheduled to pay off our mortgage from the bank by the end of 2018.
Mr. FAF and I have been discussing how we want to invest our disposable income after that. One plan is to buy another house near where we live since we’re pretty close to Crystal City, where Amazon will be opening half of their HQ2.
I have proposed Roth IRAs and tax advantage brokerage accounts, but Mr. FAF is not so thrilled about either of those (mainly due to a lack of understanding).
Review of my 2018 New Year resolutions
1. Work harder and smarter at my day job – Pass/Fail
I did work harder and (I think) smarter at my job. However, I didn’t get promoted or transfer to a higher-paying position for various reasons.
In 2019, if everything goes according to plan, I will start applying for new positions since my upward mobility at my current job is pretty limited, if not nonexistent.
2. Max out our 401(k) – Pass
Mr. FAF maxed our his 401(k), and I maxed out my 403(b) in 2018. We got a Pass on this goal.
Hubby is still cynical of contributing to 401(k) since it’s money we can’t touch until we are almost 60. That’s the reason why we haven’t contributed anything to our IRAs yet.
Mr. FAF said he doesn’t understand the stock market and thinks of it as gambling. He compromised by agreeing to max out his 401(k), so I’ll give him more time to think about the IRAs and tax-advantage brokerage accounts (which I don’t really understand either).
3. Keep our food expenses under $500/month – Major Fail
Yes, we failed this goal miserably. I started to keep track of our monthly food expenses after my mother-in-law (MIL) left DC for China in June 2018.
On average, we spend slightly more than $900/mo on groceries, restaurants, drinks, alcohol and everything else that went into our stomachs. We try to watch our food expenses, but now I officially gave up on keeping the bill under $500/mo.
Related: Our Monthly Food Expense Reports
4. Not buy new clothes – Pass/Fail
Inspired by Mrs. Frugalwoods, I decided to go on a clothing ban. I didn’t buy any new clothes in 2018. There were times when I was tempted to buy something new. But being pregnant helped since nothing looked good on me, and I got a huge bag of hand-me-down maternity clothes from my neighbor.
I did, however, buy a pair of Nine West boots for $106.50. The original price was $179. I waited until the beginning of November to get a 30% sale plus a 15% welcome discount which slashed the price by $72.5.
5. Spend more time teaching Baby FAF math, English, and Vietnamese – Fail
Baby F1 is 3.5 years old. I was ambitious with this goal. I tried to teach him arithmetic, but he just didn’t learn much (or anything). He can count up to 20, but addition and subtraction is a different story.
Our son also experienced a speech delay which we attributed to his one year of staying in China from age 1 to 2. He finally started to speak more and can say long phrases at the age of 3.5.
We were so focused on improving his English that we neglected teaching him any Chinese or Vietnamese. It’s partly because hubby and I were afraid we might further delay his speech development in English.
Related: Our 7 Expectations For Our Son
6. Be more patient and understanding with Mr. FAF – Fail
This is an ongoing battle for me. I find myself irritated easily when something is not done the way I want.
In a way, I’ve made some progress. But it’s mainly because I’m so preoccupied with our newborn. I pick my battle and choose not to care about all the little things Mr. FAF does that annoy me.
7. Blog three times a week – Fail
Another fail of the year is my blogging schedule.
Originally, I wanted to blog three times a week. But I ran out of steam and decided to give myself a break. I will write a post when I have something to say and something new to update the reader.
At first, I felt guilty about failing my own goal. But after thinking about the stress of coming up with 3 new topics every week when I’m indeed running out of ideas, I decided to just go with the flow and loosen up a little.
Out of 7 goals for 2018, I had 1 Pass, 2 Pass/Fails, and 4 Fails. It looks like maxing out our 401(k) and 403(b) was the easiest since our contributions were automated, and we didn’t lose our jobs.
The number of Fails outweighs that of Passes. But it’s ok.
Overall, I think we had a happy year. We welcomed our second baby, kept our jobs, paid off our mortgage, maintained our frugal lifestyle but still enjoyed life.
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